Prayer for Better Communication with Husband

One of the key elements of a great marriage is good communication. When you and your husband communicate well, your marriage flourishes. You can grow your marriage by doing one of your most precious duties, praying for your marriage. Thus, you should pray for better communication with your husband. 

Here is a short prayer you can say for better communication to develop in your marriage:

Dear Heavenly Father,

You are awesome. Thank you for giving me a husband. Please bless our marriage. Help us have better communication. Help us talk to each other with love, gentleness, kindness, and respect. I pray for all these things in the name of Jesus. Amen. 

How can I improve communication with my husband?

Improving communication with your husband requires time and effort. You can improve it by doing these ten things, among others:

1. Discuss issues together

The apostle Paul wrote that we should speak pleasantly to each other [ Colossians 4:6(NIV) – Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. ], and this includes discussing issues in the right manner. When you are troubled and faced with a problem, it is best to talk it over with your spouse. God gave you your spouse to help you. When you are anxious or worried about something, communicate with your husband, for God has given him the wisdom for direction and guidance. God speaks through your spouse, and he also speaks through you. With the guidance that God gives, both of you can navigate issues and problems together.

2. Don’t talk about past mistakes

Don’t bring up past mistakes when you are having problems communicating with each other or when you are faced with issues as a couple. Paul shared his experience of not dwelling on the past and moving ahead [ Philippians 3:13-14 (NIV) ]. The past does not matter in your relationship anymore. Bringing up the past will not help your situation or relationship. Live and deal with the present, for God is the God of the present, and he will help you fix whatever you are dealing with at this moment. Remember that the God who brought you together will supply what is lacking in your communication. You just have to follow his lead.

3. Take a break

The Bible says [Proverbs 18:21 (NLT) – The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.] that those who talk endlessly will have to reap its consequence. When you have bad communication that ushers in hurtful words and arguments, the right thing to do is to be silent and take a break. Refrain from saying things when you or your husband are angry. Have a time out and take a walk. Do something else. Take as much time as you need to calm down and relax. Allow time for your husband to settle into a relaxed state as well. When you are both okay, that is a good time to talk again.

4. Don’t let the opinion of others affect your marriage

It is written in the scriptures that we should not always listen to what people say to us [ Ecclesiastes 7:21 (NIV) – Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you ]. While some opinions of other people about your spouse and your marriage can be true and beneficial for your marriage, there are some pieces of advice that may not be helpful. Because people are not perfect, their words may not be entirely true or beneficial to you and your husband. It is good to listen to what they have to say, but filter their advice and check if their opinion is truthful and will strengthen your communication in marriage, not tear it down.

5. Ask for and give forgiveness when needed

You are a human being, and so is your husband. You can both make mistakes and say careless and offensive words. Be considerate and understand your husband. It would be wise to follow the command of Paul to forgive others [ Colossians 3:13 (NIV) – Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. ]. Be ready to forgive and be humble and sincere enough to apologize when you have hurt him. Forgive and ask for forgiveness because those are two ways of strengthening your communication, thus leading to better communication.

6. Remember that you are partners

There is no competition in your marriage. Acknowledge that you and your husband are partners. The author in the Old Testament talks about agreeing with each other [ Amos 3:3 (NIV) – Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? ], which also applies to couples. Accept that you both need to agree at some points and communicate well. Make your communication work. If your husband is lacking in a certain area of communication, don’t criticize him. Do not belittle him. You are his partner. Be great partners to each other and aim for better communication.

7. Listen

One of the key factors in having better communication is listening. The Bible clearly says that you should listen [ James 1:19 (NIV) ]. You both should listen intently to each other. Give your spouse time to speak and express what he has on his mind, including his feelings. Listen well. Refrain from being quick to air your opinions, thoughts, and what is in your heart. Do not immediately start forming a reply in your mind. Give yourself time to listen and understand. 

8. Be respectful

You and your husband are different individuals, so it’s natural for you both to have differing opinions, thoughts, and feelings. It is written [ 1 Peter 2:17 (NIV) ] that we should respect others, which also includes respecting your spouse. You may choose to agree to disagree when you differ in your thoughts. Your husband not having the same thoughts as you does not mean that he disrespects you; it only means that he is unique. Do not raise your voice. Be kind and courteous. Do not compare your spouse with other men. Do not judge or threaten a divorce. Do not accuse your husband. Just express how you feel with gentleness and respect. Filter your words so as not to hurt your husband’s feelings.

9. Write

One of the best things to give to your spouse is letters. It is said [ 1 Corinthians 16:14 (NIV) ] that we should do all things with love, and writing a letter is one way of showing that. You can write a letter to your husband when you do not know how to say things verbally. Write a heartwarming letter with sensitivity, honesty, and pleasant words. You may write a letter of appreciation to your husband, expressing your gratitude for his efforts in your marriage and how he has been treating you. Write how grateful you are to him for the little things he does for you and your family. You may send him notes and cards as frequently as you like.

10. Be patient

In the beautiful verse of Ephesians 4:2-3 (NIV), we read that we should be patient with others. When you have a hard time communicating with each other, remember that you both have flaws. That is why you may miss some points when communicating. You both may struggle to communicate verbally and nonverbally, so be patient with your spouse. Believe that you can be patient. Pray about it. A little extra patience will significantly improve communication with your husband.

How do I pray for intimacy in my marriage?

Intimacy is essential in marriage. Intimacy creates more room for couples to be united and bond. You can pray for intimacy in your marriage with the following points. Pray for:

• Good health

We read in 3 John 1:2 (NIV) that the author asks God for good health for his friend. You and your husband both need to have good health. Physical fitness is a necessity for you both to enjoy intimacy. You need to take care of your body by eating nutritious food and exercising. Along with physical fitness comes mental health. Mental wellness is important for good health and, thus, for intimacy. In the same way, you can pray for your health and that of your husband. Pray with a positive mind for good health for both of you.

• Appreciation and gratitude

The Bible tells us that speaking good words is beneficial [ Proverbs 16:24 (NIV) ], so express your appreciation to your husband. Express how much you feel loved and cared for by him. Also, thank him for everything he has done and continues to do for you and your family. Show appreciation for him in the presence of your children and others. When your husband hears that you appreciate him, he will be more moved to be intimate with you. When your husband knows that you are grateful to him, he will be inspired to do more and get closer to you. Pray with a longing heart for you and your husband to be more appreciative and grateful to each other.

• Good communication

Strong intimacy calls for good communication between you and your husband. It is written [ Psalm 19:14 (NIV) ] that we should speak words that are pleasing to God. You will have good intimacy when you communicate well with him, and he does the same with you. Respect, good communication, courtesy, kind words, good listening, and patience are all things that can lead to deep intimacy. Pray with confidence and faith for you and your husband’s communication skills to improve.

• More love

In John 15:12 (NIV), Jesus himself taught us to love others. When you show your husband how much you love him, there is a strong tendency for him to do the same. Care for him more and show your affection because affection begets more affection. Know and practice your husband’s love language. Love him the way he wants to be loved. Touch him in ways that he will appreciate and like. Embrace him every day. Make him feel important. Let your husband readily feel your love. Pray with hope for you and your husband’s love to increase so that you can be intimate even more often. Be intimate more completely so you can have more room for love.

• More time

Sometimes the business of this modern world lessens the time you have to be intimate. There will be times when you or your husband get so tired that you do not have enough time to show your affection for each other. Such stress can affect your intimacy. The book of Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV) reminds us that we have enough time for all things. Take time for you and your husband to rest, but also make room for you to be intimate. Pray with expectation and joy for you to always be ready for intimacy because you both need it. Remember that a marriage with regular intimacy is a healthy marriage.

Conclusion

Better communication with your husband will happen when you both put your heart and effort into it. You can communicate well and increase intimacy by acknowledging and meeting your husband’s needs, and praying is very helpful for meeting those needs.