Prayer for Detached Husband

Having a husband is a blessing but can also be a burden if he suddenly becomes distant from you. Your heart may feel broken by such a situation, especially when you have grown used to being loved and cared for by him. Your husband being detached from you is a signal that your marriage may be falling apart. However, take courage because you can do something to prevent a divorce from happening. You can pray for your husband to come back to you. 

Here is a short prayer that you can say for your husband to return:

Dear Father,

You are the God of possibilities. You know the situation with my husband and the status of our marriage. Please enlighten us. Give us wisdom to do what is right. Speak to my husband. Allow him to reflect on our marriage and do what is necessary. I pray all these things in Jesus’ name. Amen.

How do I pray for a distant husband?

There are certain reasons why a husband might detach himself or feel distant. Your husband needs your prayers during such a period. You might not know everything to pray for him. Here is a list of the things you may consider praying for your husband’s benefit. Pray for:

• Good health

Written in 3 John 1:2 (NIV) (Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.) , John wishes good health to his friend. Your husband needs to have a healthy lifestyle. He needs to be physically fit. It is essential for him to be mentally healthy and have a sound mind. It is necessary for him to have time for rest and breaks. Pray for God to bless your husband with a healthy body and mind. You can say this prayer:

Dear Lord God,

Thank you for being good. Bless my husband with good health. Bless his body so that he may be able to live healthily. Let him have adequate rest. Make him strong and energetic. These things I pray, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Wisdom 

Your husband will face many choices and decisions in life. He will be in need of guidance from the Lord. It is significant for him to have some sense of direction and wisdom. It is said in the book of Proverbs 2:6 (NIV) that God gives wisdom. Ask God for your spouse to become wiser and follow the Lord’s leading. Pray for him to wisely discern good from evil. Ask God for your husband to be enlightened and make the right decisions. You may pray in this way:

Dear God,

You are the giver of wisdom. Please give wisdom to my husband so that he may please You. Let him be wise in the way he uses his time and other resources that You have bestowed on him. This I pray, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Love

There is a possibility that the love of your husband towards you may have lessened. That is why he may be acting distant. He may not care for you as he did when you were newly married. His concern for you may have diminished. In Ezekiel 36:26 (NIV) ( I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.), God promised the Israelites that he would give them a new heart. Pray for God to give your husband a new heart, one that loves you just like before or even more than he loved you when you made a vow to be together. You may offer this prayer:

Dear Everlasting God,

Perfect love comes from you. Please bless my husband with a loving heart that pleases you. Let him love with all his heart. Let him be selfless. Let him love me the way that he should. I pray this, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Protection 

Your husband may be in the midst of a spiritual battle with the enemy. Your spouse may be struggling in some areas of his life, and perhaps he doesn’t want to involve you in it. The author stresses in Deuteronomy 20:4 (NIV) that God will fight for us, thus protecting us as well. Pray for God to protect your husband from attacks of the evil one. Ask God for him to overcome his struggles and battles in life. Request God to protect your husband from harm and danger. You may offer your prayer like this:

Dear Almighty God,

You are marvelous and in control of everything. Please continue to protect my husband. Protect him from danger and harm that the enemy might throw at him. I pray this, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Strength

There could be some weakness that your husband has and is not telling you about. There may be some issues in his life that are weakening his emotions and spirit. God declared [ Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) ] that he would give us strength. He will do the same to your husband. Pray for God to strengthen him. Ask God for your spouse to acknowledge and surrender his weakness to God and embrace the grace and empowerment that God gives. You can talk to God in this way:

Dear God,

You are powerful. As you have strengthened your people before, please strengthen my husband as well. Strengthen his faith. Let him fully depend on you, so that he may fulfill his purpose. These things I pray, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Obedience

One of the reasons for your husband being distant could be that he first grew distant from God. He may have detached himself from the lordship and love of God. In Luke 11:28 (NIV), the Lord Jesus himself tells us to obey, and it comes with a blessing. Pray for him to submit himself to God once again. Ask God to make your husband humble and obedient to him. Ask your spouse to follow in the footsteps of Jesus, just as he did before. You can express your heart to God by saying this prayer:

Dear Lord,

You are righteous and pleased when we obey you. Please give my husband an obedient heart. Let him listen to you and obey your command. Let him not be swayed, but firm in doing your will. I pray this, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Peace

One of the needs of your husband is peace. The enemy may disturb his peace and cause him to think negative and troubling thoughts, making him more distant from you. Jesus powerfully let us know [ John 14:27 (NIV) ] that he will give us peace. Pray for your husband to be free from worries, fears, and anxiety. Pray that he will be peaceful in his heart and mind. Pray that he will be calm and that his spirit will be at rest in God. You can copy this prayer:

Dear Father God,

You are the author of peace. Please my husband with the peace that you give. When troubles come his way, let him remember your word and your promises. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.

How do I pray for my marriage to be restored?

God binds people and heals marriages to restoration. You can certainly pray for your marriage to be restored and expect to receive an answer from God. Here are seven things you can do to restore your marriage:

1. Good communication

Reflect on the way you have been communicating with your husband. Think of whether you have hurt each other through your exchange of words. We are taught in  Psalm 19:14 (NIV) that our words should be acceptable to God. Pray for your communication to get better. Ask God for both of you to be more courteous. Request that you speak gentle, kind, and pleasant words to each other. Petition for both of you to be better listeners and be able to understand each other.

2. Respect

When you or your husband have been offended, sometimes respect is cast aside. You or your husband may lose respect due to hurtful, offensive, or insensitive words. We read in Ephesians 5:33 (NIV) that the author instructed wives to respect their husbands. This also applies to husbands, as is written in 1 Peter 3:7 (NIV), which says that husbands should also respect their wives. Pray for both of you to begin respecting each other again. You may disagree on some points, but you can respect each other even when agreeing to disagree.

3. Forgiveness

When you or your husband have been hurt, you both need to forgive each other. Intentional or not, all people make mistakes because no one is flawless. If you have offended him, it would be wise to ask for forgiveness. In 1 Peter 2:24 (NIV), the apostle Peter instills in us that by the wounds of Jesus, we are healed. Pray for your husband to have a forgiving heart and heal. Ask God to remove the bitterness, anger, resentment, and other negative feelings from your husband, and let there be healing among you.

4. Patience

You and your husband are not perfect, so you are prone to fall short and displease or annoy one another. There are many things that can cause annoyance and friction, such as unmet expectations or expecting too much from the other person. Solomon shared his wise words [Proverbs 16:32 (NIV)], saying that it is more beneficial to be patient. Pray for you and your husband to be considerate of each other. Ask God for both of you to understand your weaknesses, shortcomings, and failures. Pray for God to let you both embrace each other’s imperfections and flaws.

5. Unconditional love

In your marriage, you came before God with a pledge to love each other. You promised to love each other regardless of how the situation may change. However, certain events occur that may have reduced your love for each other. The love chapter, 1 Corinthians 13, specifically 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV), defines love and how it should be for everyone. In order for your marriage to be restored, pray for you and your husband to love each other unconditionally. Ask God for you both to be selfless and accepting. Request that you both work out your differences, adjust, change what needs to be changed, and accept each other. Petition that both of you will be united in mind and heart, making decisions together, agreeing, and putting effort into restoring your marriage.

6. Mutual growth

Marriage is a gift from God for you and your husband to grow together. From the time you got married to now, you and your husband have had to make changes in your ways, speech, character, conduct, behavior, and view of things, among others. It is written in the Bible that we should grow to maturity [ 1 Corinthians 13:11 (NIV) ]. Ask God for you both to outgrow unpleasant characteristics like selfishness, stubbornness, and insensitivity. Pray for you both to grow in character, wisdom, faith, personality, and strength. 

7. Rebuild trust

One of the most important ingredients in a successful marriage is trust. The bond may end up being dissolved when there are lies, falsehoods, and distrust in a marriage. You both need to trust each other again for your marriage to be restored. Do what you can to start trusting each other again. Be honest with each other. Walk in the way of truthfulness. A vital command of Jesus is to love one another [ John 15:12 (NIV) ], and part of loving others is trusting them. This is especially true between a husband and his wife. Ask God to remove you and your husband’s doubts and distrust of each other. Pray that both of you can believe in each other again. Ask that honesty reign in your marriage once again.

What does the Bible say about fixing a broken marriage?

The Bible does not directly mention how to fix a broken marriage. However, it gives indirect instructions on how to have a good and long-lasting marriage.

There can be some instances where God will not permit a marriage to be fixed, because a husband or a wife might be being abused or in danger by living with his or her spouse in the long run. In Luke 4:18-19 (NIV), the Bible teaches us that Jesus was anointed to set the prisoners free, and this includes freedom from abusive marriages. If living with your husband may endanger your well-being, then God wants to protect you from it by letting you leave your marriage. Your husband failed to love you by being abusive to you. God has promised to keep you safe, and he will do it. He wants you free, and he will give you that freedom.

When God wants you to stay in your marriage because he sees that you will be able to live harmoniously with your husband, he will make a way for your distant husband to be with you again. The Bible tells us that a wife’s primary duty is to respect her husband. This requires the wife to speak with respect, as well as act and live respectfully toward her husband. When a wife fails to respect her husband, the husband may get offended. If the wife repeatedly disrespects her husband, the latter may get offended more deeply and may distance himself from his wife, which may lead him to do unpleasant things that may end in a broken marriage. Thus, the respect of a wife for her husband is vital in preventing a marriage from being broken, as well as in fixing a broken marriage.

In Ephesians 5:25 (NIV), husbands are commanded to love their wives in the same way that they love themselves, which is paralleled to the love of Jesus for the church. When a husband falls short of loving his wife, their marriage is hurt and may result in issues that could ruin their marriage. When a husband has failed to show his love for his wife, such negligence may end up in a broken marriage. Thus, loving a wife is essential in fixing a marriage.

In summary, the lessons that a wife should respect her husband and a husband should love his wife are the core answers to fixing a broken marriage. Respect from a wife and love from a husband fixes a broken marriage under God’s mighty hand. These two steps are the main keys towards the restoration of marriage. Even if a wife respects her husband, but the husband fails to love his wife, their marriage is bound to be broken. Respect and love must go together for a marriage to be fixed. For a marriage to be restored, a husband and wife must agree to partner in order to fix their marriage. 

Conclusion

Married couples can face storms, but they must do so together. Your husband can become distant if your marriage is not in a good state. However, don’t lose hope, for God will help you. Continue to pray with hope and faith, and do everything you can to save your marriage.