How to Pray for Your Husband to Change

When God led you and your husband to marry each other, he already knew precisely what to do to keep you together. As a couple, you and your spouse have different qualities and strengths. Let’s look into the topic How to Pray for Your Husband to Change

You may have discovered new admirable traits in your husband, but you have also witnessed some concerning attitude problems. These things bother you, and God knows it. Take heart, as you can do something about them; one of the most powerful ways to deal with them is to pray for your husband to change.

Can God change the heart of my husband?

People in relationships adore their partners, but character differences can arise as they get to know each other and spend more time together. God is the God of change, and he can definitely change your husband’s heart. God can change the heart of your husband for many reasons, but here are a few main ones:

• God created your husband

When you see that your husband has an attitude that needs to be changed, it may lead you to push your husband to change quickly. When there is a behavior in your spouse that you do not like, you may be indirectly encouraged to do anything to change him.

Remember, God is the creator of the universe and he created your husband wonderfully. Your husband can certainly be changed in areas that he sees need alteration. When Jacob cheated his brother Esau, he was later changed by God and became reunited with Esau. God sees how your husband is living. God knows his heart and spirit. He said in the old testament that he will give man a new heart and a new spirit [ Ezekiel 36:26 (NIV) ]. When God sees that your husband’s heart is not aligned with his will, God will change your husband’s heart as He sees fit.

• God knows him

Your husband, though a perfect God made him, is imperfect. You can see some of his flaws. You see part of the personality and being of your husband, but God knows him completely.

David said that God knew him [ Psalm 139:1 (NIV) ]. Find comfort in God knowing your spouse fully. He knows when your husband is strong or weak. He knows the entirety of your spouse’s emotional, psychological, and spiritual state. He knows what to do to change the heart of your husband. He also knows when to change the heart of your spouse. Basically, he knows how to deal with your husband. He knows everything, and you can trust him with that.

• God holds him

You may be very eager for your husband to change his ways. There can be times when you will be tempted to be impatient with his progress or lack of progress during the transformation process.

The psalmist said that even if others give up on him, God will still be there for him, holding him [ Psalm 27:10 (NIV) ]. Extend your patience because God is holding your husband. When Paul persecuted the church and brought trouble to the Christians, God held his heart to prevent him from going any further with his troublesome ways. As God was to Paul, so will he be to your husband. God will not allow the heart of your husband to go totally astray. God will not permit your husband to be led to eternal damnation. He will not let go of the heart of your husband. He will change it in his perfect time.

• God directs your husband

While your husband may continue to be hard-hearted or willfully stubborn and go astray, believe that God will bring him back. Just like the prodigal son who left his father, lived wildly, and after realizing his faults, went back humbly to his father, so it will be with your husband. He will return to God because God will direct your husband back to Him. 

David sang that the Lord directs and guides him [ Psalm 23:2-3 (NIV) ]. When Jonah rebelled, God made a way for him to find his way back. Any misdirection of your husband will result in a redirection toward God, for God will not allow him to forever depart from His care. God, in all his loving will, will cause your husband to return to him, whether your husband likes it or not. The heart of your husband will be changed by God, who can redirect all things.

• God is all powerful

There may be a slim chance for your husband to change. Looking at and thinking of him may pierce your heart and cause you to be dismayed or lose hope. However, remember that you are not alone.

People may have thought it was all over when Lazarus died, but God had a purpose. God is present in your midst, and he has a purpose for your husband’s situation. He is still the God of your husband. No power of the evil one can hold the heart of your spouse forever. When the Israelites were about to escape Egypt, Moses said to them not to be afraid because God would fight for them [ Exodus 14:14 (NIV) ]. God is all-powerful and he will fight for your husband to have a new heart. Believe it.

• Your husband is a child of God

Your husband may have negative traits or behavior, but he is still a child of God. Your spouse may have fallen or been living in sin, but he was still made in the image of God. 

Jesus said that once a person accepts him, that person becomes a child of God [ John 1:12 (NIV) ]. Your husband is a child of God. Remember that, despite the shortcomings and infirmities of your husband, his father is still God. Therefore, God will come to him because he will always be a precious child of God. God has created in him a heart and spirit that will be drawn and changed by God when the time arises. God will rescue and change the heart of your husband because he is a true child of God. Be at peace with that.

• God makes everything beautiful

The beauty of your husband may become less because of his weaknesses or ongoing mistakes. You may pity him for his situation and how he is becoming. He may even like himself for how he is turning out to be.

Solomon said that God made beautiful things [ Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NIV) ]. When God created your husband, God ensured that he had great beauty. God gave your husband a beautiful heart—a heart that loves and is compassionate. He can make your husband have a beautiful heart once again.

• God is a miracle worker

Maybe you have been hurt and are continually hurting because your husband erred or is still living in sin. You may get discouraged about the situation with your husband. Hopelessness may be knocking at your door.

Nothing is hard for God to do [ Jeremiah 32:27 (NIV) ]. Look back and remember all the things God has done in your life and in your marriage, and you will see and remember that God is a miracle worker. He has done great things that you would not have believed or imagined he ever would. He moved mountains and turned your dark days to light. He will surely work a miracle in your husband’s life and give him a renewed heart that is willing to obey and love wholeheartedly.

• Nothing is impossible with God

With the disappointing ways of your husband and failed expectations, you may grow weary. With the promise of change being unrealized, you may lose heart and become frustrated.

Jesus said that everything is possible with God [ Matthew 19:26 (NIV) ]. When you feel like your husband will continue to stray and when you think that his heart will always be hardened, remember that God will answer your prayer, for nothing is too hard for him to do. He promised that he would give you what you sought if you asked. He will change your husband’s heart so that he will do what God would lead him to do. God will bless him with a beautiful change of heart that will amaze you and make you happy.

Prayer for your husband to change

Praying for your husband was likely the ultimate resort for your husband to change. However, when you pray for your husband, God is delighted. You must know that God will respond in ways you cannot imagine whenever you pray. Pray with all your heart. Pray with faith and hope. Here is a simple prayer that you may pray for your husband to have a changed heart:

Almighty God,

You created the heavens and have made and given me a wonderful husband. Thank you for his life. Thank you for uniting us together. Father, his ways are not hidden from you. You fully know his heart. You know the areas in which he needs to change. Please enlighten him. Let him realize the error of his ways and come to repentance. Make him willing to change. Nothing is impossible for you. You have changed many people before, and I believe you can do it again. Please transform my husband into what you want him to be. Cleanse and purify him. Let him be renewed. Give him a new heart and a new spirit indeed, just as you did to your people long ago. Bless him with a mind and heart that humbly obeys and pleases you. I will hold on to your promises. Thank you for your wonderful deeds. I pray in the name of your precious Son. Amen.

Conclusion

The emotional state of your husband can test your faith and cause you to become desperate. However, that same state may also deepen your faith and expand your hope. The most essential thing that you can do is focus on God and continually pray. Then you will see God change your husband beyond your wildest expectations.