How to Pray with My Husband

God designed marriage for two different individuals to come together as one for a lifetime of promise and blessings. God has lovingly joined you and your man to spend a life together in a beautiful marriage. 

Being married is a privilege given by God for you to have a wonderful and blissful life with your husband. With a marriage anointed by God, you have needs that only God can meet. By praying with your husband, God gives you time to connect with him.

For you and your husband to have a good marriage, one of the ingredients is for you to come together to God in prayer. Praying with your husband will move your hearts and minds in line with the grace and will of God in your marriage.

How to convince my husband to pray with me

While it is good to pray alone, one of the greatest things to do as a married couple is to pray with your spouse. Convincing your husband to pray with you can be challenging, but there are effective ways to convince him to pray. Here are seven ways for you to do that:

1. Pray

Praying with your husband is essential. You may be eager to pray, but he may not be as excited about praying as you are. He may have other things in mind to do, or he may prefer to pray alone.

The apostle John explained that God hears prayer, and a person receives what he has prayed for [ 1 John 5:15 (NIV) ]. The best way to get your husband to pray with you is to ask God to lead your husband to pray with you. Pray that your husband will be willing to pray. Pray that he will become eager to go to God in prayer with you.

2. Sing praises

Music is powerful in moving into the hearts of people. Music has been used since ancient times to enlighten and influence the hearts of its hearers.

Paul gave a message to the believers to sing [ Colossians 3:16 (NIV) ]. Sing with all your heart in the presence of your husband at home, in the car, or wherever possible. Sing your praises to God. Sing with a glad heart. There is a possibility that by hearing your songs, your husband’s heart will be stirred to respond, and he will be convinced to pray with you the next time you ask him to.

3. Share your answered prayer list

Sometimes, a husband does not want to pray with his wife because he has had unanswered prayers. He might have been disappointed by not being able to receive what he had prayed for.

Another way you may encourage your husband to pray with you is by showing him the list of your answered prayers and the amazing deeds of God in your life. The psalmist sang to tell others what God had done [ Psalm 105:1 (NIV) ]. You may even read your list to him. Upon hearing this, your husband may find interest in praying with you as he will be glad about your answered prayers and the grace of God.

4. Remind him of his blessings

Your husband may have forgotten the blessings God has bestowed on him. Some instances or experiences in his life might have prompted him to not pray anymore. 

When it seems that he has forgotten, remind him of his blessings. Let him remember how God has been good to him and continues to be good to him. The Bible encourages people to thank God [ Psalm 106:1 (NIV) ]. Remind him of the generosity and provision of God as shown by his being given a job, being loved by his family, and having all that he needs.

Mention the answered prayer stories of couples that your husband knows. Listening to such stories can encourage your husband to pray with you.

Tell your husband what Jesus said—that when you ask God in prayer, you will have joy [ John 16:24 (NIV) ]. Tell him that God does answer and that He answers for the benefit of the one praying. Praying is beneficial in many other ways. Tell him that, among other things, saying a prayer enlightens and increases his faith. Praying will lead him closer to God, and God will bless him. Prayer will make him stronger and in better emotional and mental health.

5. Encourage him in reading the Scriptures

The Bible has been written to inspire, encourage, teach, correct, empower, and bless people. People should be reading and meditating on it consistently. His prayer life is affected if your husband is missing his Bible readings and devotionals.

The Bible says to uplift each other [ 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV) ]. Share a Bible verse with him. Share a prayer that God speaks through you. Share a verse that inspires and encourages him to pray with you again. Share a verse that will boost his faith, hope, and gratitude. Read Bible stories that display answered prayers. Convince him by sharing the word of God with him daily.

6. Say that praying is beneficial

Your husband may think that prayer is just simple wishing. Perhaps, for him, praying does not always make God answer.

Tell your husband what Jesus said—that when you ask God in prayer, you will have joy [ John 16:24 (NIV) ]. Tell him that God does answer and that he answers for the benefit of the one praying. Praying is beneficial in many other ways. Tell him that, among other things, saying a prayer enlightens and increases his faith. Praying will lead him closer to God, and God will bless him. Prayer will make him stronger, with better emotional and mental health.

7. Explain the power of prayer

The thought of praying may cause your husband to question its efficacy. He might have prayed before but could not receive the answer he expected.

Tell your husband that, by the prayer of Peter, the power of God came down and raised the dead body of a woman [ Acts 9:40 (NIV) ]. Explain that praying to God means tapping into the mighty power of God and that he should believe that God will give him the best answer according to His will. His prayer is powerful when it is aligned with the will of God. When the prayer aligns, then God will give His corresponding answer based on His love and wisdom.

What to do when your husband does not want to pray with you

A husband not wanting to pray with his wife can be an issue in a marriage. Do not worry if your husband does not want to pray with you. Listed are some things you can do about it.

• Pray continually

While praying together as a couple is important in your relationship, there may be times when your husband does not feel like praying with you. There may be times when he chooses not to pray with you.

When your husband would prefer not to pray with you, pray to God for him. Pray that your husband will be enlightened and, if he is going through something, will be encouraged and strengthened. Ask God to move your husband to pray with you again.

• Listen to his reason

There is a reason your husband decides not to pray with you. He might have had a sad experience at that moment. He may have disappointments or frustrations that he cannot express in prayer with you.

Listen and do not judge. Listen to understand. Understand that your husband may not be ready to pray with you. He may not want to kneel and let you listen to his complaints, pains, or anything bothering him.

• Write him a letter

Do not be discouraged when your husband does not want to go to God with you. Do not be angry at him. While you may be urged to argue with him, some sentiments are better left unsaid, and some messages are best written in a letter. 

Try writing him a heartfelt letter. Let him know that praying together is precious and a great appointment with your father, God. Tell him that you and he, praying together, will grow and fortify your relationship with God and as a couple.

• Play Christian music

Just because your husband does not want to pray with you does not mean that he is rejecting you or will not pray with you eventually. His spiritual state, just like other situations, can change.

The Israelites played music, and the wall of Jericho fell [ Joshua 6:1-20 (NIV) ]. The wall hindering your husband from praying with you may also fall by playing music whenever he is around. Music can touch his spirit and his soul, and he may be led to pray with you in the coming days.

• Be patient

There will be days when your husband may not like to pray with you. There may be some things that he does not want you to know. Do not lose heart when your husband declines your invitation.

Solomon wrote that a good thing will result when you have patience [ Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NIV) ]. As God has been and is being patient with you, be patient with your husband. Give him time to change his mind and be willing to pray with you. Give him space and let the Spirit of God move toward turning your husband around to wanting to pray with you.

• Respect his decision

When you consistently invite your husband to pray with you, and he keeps on refusing to do so, respect his decision.

Wives were reminded to respect their husbands [ Ephesians 5:33 (NIV) ]. Remember that he is your husband, and he has to make decisions. His decision not to pray with you at the moment may hurt you but respect his decision. There will come a time when God will work in your husband’s heart and move him to pray with you.

• Continue to show your love

When your husband does not want to come to God in prayer with you, do not resent him. Do not be bitter or treat him unkindly.

The Bible teaches us to love [ 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NIV) ]. Show more of your love for your spouse despite his shortcomings. Let him feel that you honor and care for him despite his refusal to cooperate in praying with you. Your kindness and love will eventually lead him to pray with you in time.

• Hope

There may be times that it is tempting for you to give up on inviting your husband to pray with you. You may get discouraged and disappointed whenever he turns you down.

As [ Philippians 1:6 (NIV) ] puts it, God will complete what He began in your heart in convincing your husband to pray with you. So, do not lose hope. Continue to hope in the Lord that your husband will be willing to pray with you one day. Be hopeful that God will appoint a time when your husband will decide to go to God in prayer with you.

• Pray some more

Do not stop praying when you have waited so long and you have gotten tired of convincing your husband to pray with you. Be constant in asking God to let your husband eventually give in to your invitation to pray together.

As it is written in [ Colossians 4:2 (GNT) ], be devoted to prayer. Continually pray because God will make a way for your husband to be with you in prayer. The almighty God also wants your husband to pray with you. Be faithful and persistent in prayer. As Jesus has said, believe, and you will receive [ Mark 11:24 (NIV) ]. Jesus is the Lord, and He will give the perfect answer to your prayer. He will cause your husband to pray with you. 

Conclusion

Praying as a couple is a necessary tool in your marriage that brings forth more unity, spirituality, and closeness to God. When you put in the effort to pray with your husband, God sees your heart, and He will bless you, your husband, and your marriage.