Prayer for Husband and Wife Fighting

A married couple was brought together by God to love and care for each other. However, nobody is perfect; they do make mistakes and misunderstand and end up arguing or fighting with each other. Here is a prayer that you can confidently pray for a husband and wife who are fighting:

Dear heavenly Father,

You are a God of peace and love. You want couples to live harmoniously with each other. I pray that this couple will love and be considerate of each other. Please bestow upon them Your peace. Let them be united, and let them live in harmony. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.

How do I pray for a couple who always fights?

You can certainly go to God in prayer for a couple who constantly fights. You can ask God to bless their relationship with love and understanding so that they will no longer battle. Here are some areas that you can pray for:

• Good communication

Most fights come from miscommunication. A spouse may have misunderstood the other spouse, or a spouse may not have listened while the other was speaking. In ( Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV), Paul commanded the early believers not to speak bad or offensive words but words that would help and encourage others. Pray for a couple to have good communication. You may pray this way:

Dear God,

You are kind. You have joined this couple in marriage. Please help them communicate well. Let them listen to each other. When they disagree on an issue, make them agree to disagree. Make them understand each other’s point of view. Draw them to express themselves with gentleness and pleasant words. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Respect

When a couple is fighting, respect for each other is no longer there. Respect is needed for a husband and a wife to have a good relationship. Pray for them to be concerned for and respect each other. The Bible tells us in ( Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.  1 Peter 2:17 (NIV) that we should respect each other. You can help a husband and wife by praying this simple prayer:

Dear God,

You are the giver of respect. Please bless this couple so that they will have respect for each other. Remind them that they are not each other’s enemy and that they are partners. Let them treat one another the way they want to be treated. These things I pray in the name of Jesus our Lord. Amen.

• Forgiveness

Couples fight not because they hate each other. They can fight because they do not get what they want or because they may have been disregarded, hurt, offended, or insulted. The author of ( Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Ephesians 4:32 (NIV) commands that we forgive others. Pray for a couple to be forgiving. You may pray this short prayer:

Dear Almighty God,

You are forgiving, and You want couples to forgive each other. Please touch their hearts and soften them to be forgiving. Help them realize their faults. Let them reach out and apologize to each other with humility. I pray this in Jesus’ most precious name. Amen. 

• Wisdom

As with anything, a husband and a wife need to be wise in their marriage. In addition to love, wisdom is a binder for a marriage. When a couple is wise, they know how to communicate well and treat each other through the guidance of the Spirit. They will be able to discern how to deal with their issues. It is powerfully taught in ( For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. Proverbs 2:6 (NIV) that God gives wisdom to people. Pray this prayer, expecting that God will answer:

Dear Lord God,

You are the father of wisdom and want each couple to be wise. Please bless this couple with heads not just full of knowledge but the wisdom that will lead them to do what is right in their marriage. These things I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen.

• Love to grow

Love is the number one ingredient for a couple’s peace. When a couple gives love, they will always be cautious not to hurt each other’s feelings. If they love each other more, their tendency to fight will become less and less. Jesus commanded in John 13:34 (NIV) that we must love each other. Pray for the couple to grow in their love for each other. You may come to God with this prayer:

Dear God,

You are loving. Your love for us is high and wide. Please bless this husband and wife with more love for each other. Let their love be the way You have commanded. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Peace

Peace of mind is one of the most important factors in preventing a couple from fighting. When a spouse is restless or worried, that state of mind can spark negative emotional outbursts that will cause a fight. In Isaiah 26:3 (NIV), we read one of the good lessons God gives so we will have peace. Your prayer is needed for spouses to be peaceful. You may approach God this way:

Dear Lord,

You are the author of peace. You want us to have peace. Please bless this couple with peace in their hearts and minds. Let them be calm, and let them enjoy Your peace. I pray this in the name of Jesus. Amen.

• Self-control

A husband and wife are so used to talking together that they are sometimes careless in their speech, causing them to offend each other. Their fighting may become so intense that they are unaware they are being rude and may even physically harm each other. In 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV), we are reminded by the writer that God gives us self-control. Pray for the couple to have self-control. You can pray this way:

Dear God,

You are powerful, but You do not use Your power to hurt or offend us. Please move this couple to have self-control and refrain from hurting each other emotionally and physically. Let them remember their love for each other. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Be patient

Patience is lacking in any couple that fights a lot. No husband and wife will fight if they are patient with each other. Patience can be acquired by following the love of Jesus toward those who have hurt Him. As a result, a husband and wife should be patient like Christ is patient, as we read in James 5:8 (NIV). James gave a command to the believers for them to be patient. You can ask God to bless the couple with patience this way:

Dear Father God,

You are patient with us because You love us. Please bless this husband and wife with patience. Let them be considerate and ready to extend their patience. In Jesus’ name, I pray for these things. Amen.

• Be positive

The adversary will project negative thoughts onto the couple in order to destroy their marriage. Having a positive mind is a great tool for overcoming the tactics of the evil one. When one spouse is positive by being cheerful, optimistic, and fearless, there is a possibility that the other spouse will be influenced and ushered into positivity as well. In Philippians 4:8-9 (NIV), the Bible discusses how to think and be positive. You may instill a positive attitude in the couple by saying this prayer:

Dear God,

You are the God of light. No darkness can derail Your plan to strengthen and bind a couple’s relationship until the end. Grant this couple a positive mind and attitude so that Your goodness may radiate from them. I pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.

• Grow in the faith

Doubts and unbelief may attack married couples. A spouse may doubt the love of his or her partner. A spouse may be skeptical of what the other spouse is saying. Trust can be broken. Betrayals may happen. It is important for a husband and wife to grow in their faith so that they don’t feel troubled and tempted to fight with each other. In Mark 9:23 (NIV), Jesus declares that everything can happen for a person who prays with faith. You can ask the Lord through this prayer:

Dear God Almighty,

You are God, Who believes in us and what we can do. You give us faith. Please bless this couple so they can grow in their faith. Let them trust in You first and then in each other. Let them overcome their unbelief. These things I pray for in the name of Jesus, the Faithful One. Amen.

Conclusion

God intended for a husband and wife to love each other. While it is normal to fight sometimes, God calls a married couple to unite and be of the same mind for a better marriage. And a better marriage can happen through constant prayer.