It takes humility, unconditional love, and selflessness for any marriage to work in the long run. As Jesus Christ reigns in a couple’s heart, your intimacy and relationship with each other continue to flourish and prosper. It isn’t easy to have a spouse with pride issues, but no hardened heart is impossible for the Lord to touch, especially through your prayers as a wife. What Should I Pray For When My Husband Won’t Humble Himself?
When your husband doesn’t humble himself, your prayer must call out his new nature in Christ Jesus. Speak life to his identity, call out the goodness God has placed inside him, and declare God’s Word.
As a wife, you can pray for your husband in this manner:
Heavenly Father, I lift to You, my husband. I bless him and all his being. He is a magnificent soul with a kind and humble heart. That is his true nature in Christ Jesus. You have made him a new creation. Thank You for helping him in all his struggles so that he can walk according to his true identity in Christ Jesus, producing every fruit of the Holy Spirit in Jesus’ name. Amen.
What Should I Pray For When My Husband Won’t Humble Himself?
It is important not to call out the flesh or the negatives you see in your husband’s words and actions, even when he doesn’t humble himself. As Proverbs 18:21 says, Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. The more you speak against your husband, the more you’ll see it manifest in his life. Therefore, say what is good and what brings life so that the seeds of words you are sowing to your husband’s life will someday come into fruition, which will impact not just your marriage but also those whom your husband encounters.
What Should I Pray For When My Husband Won’t Humble Himself?
You can also declare to him God’s promises in His Word, such as Galatians 5:22-23:
In Jesus’ name, my husband is producing the fruit of the Spirit in his life. He is full of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. I am blessed to have such a godly husband walking in Christlikeness daily. Amen.
What Should I Pray For When My Husband Won’t Humble Himself?
What should I do if my husband won’t humble himself?
If your husband won’t humble himself, the only way to deal with it in a Christlike manner is to humble yourself before the Lord and surrender your case to Him regarding your husband. You cannot force your husband or command him to humble himself by listening to you, admitting he’s wrong or apologizing for his mistakes because humility must come from the sincerity of the heart. Otherwise, he’ll just do it because you said so or for the sake of stopping the argument. There has to be true understanding and sincere humility to achieve authentic restoration in the relationship. It’s okay to give your husband space while you take your time to pray to God and pray for him when emotions are heightened. It is good to be silent for a while and let things pass. When you both are calm, you can clarify and communicate what went wrong or why your husband reacted in such a way. You can check this article, “How to deal with a husband who does not listen,” to know more about this process.
Moreover, if your husband won’t humble himself, it can also be good to stop whatever you are arguing or talking about and invite the Lord by asking him to pray with you. You can tell him, “Honey (or whatever you call your husband), let’s stop for a while and pray to God. Is that okay with you?” You can initiate the prayer, thank the Lord for his presence, and bless your husband. Then you can start to communicate clearly so that pride or anything else won’t get in the way.
Know that you are not alone on that journey. It is common in marriages to have spouses who won’t humble themselves in a situation. But love will always win. As long as love and affection are present, you don’t have to worry about your spouse, as long as Jesus Christ is at the center of your marriage. God is always at work in us; He cares more for your husband than you can ever care about his soul.
Continue to bless your husband, honor him, and love him no matter your circumstance. Never get tired of praying for your husband and speaking life to his soul; someday, it will all come to fruition through Christ Jesus.
God bless you and your marriage and protect you against the works of the enemy in Jesus’ name.