Divorce is heartbreaking news to a spouse no matter how bad the marriage has gone. It can be unexpected or shocking as a wife when your husband wants a divorce, especially if you are unprepared mentally and emotionally. You are often left with negative emotions, thoughts, and perhaps questions that you want to be addressed immediately.
When your husband wants to divorce, the best thing to say is what is sincere in your heart, but say it calmly, gently, and honorable to your husband.
Are you shocked by the news? You can tell him, “I don’t know what to say” or “I am at a loss for words.” Are you left with any questions? You can tell him, “Can we talk about this first?” or “I’d like to hear more about what led you to the decision. Can we talk about it?” Or, if you are already expecting this would happen eventually, you can still be Christlike by humbling yourself, saying, “I’m sorry we have to go through this. Let’s talk about it.”
Moreover, it is also best to say a prayer together with your husband, even though he wants a divorce. Pray together about it. We know that no marital problems and challenges are too difficult for the Lord. Even Sarah, who couldn’t bear a child for Abraham due to her age, could conceive a child even past her fertile stage because of the Lord’s work.
Talk to your husband gently and ask him to pray with you. Tell him that even as you respect his decision, the Lord must not be left out, especially in this situation. You can pray together in this manner:
Heavenly Father, we lift to You our marriage. As we encounter challenges and struggles that are too heavy to bear, we know that Your hand of love, guidance, and protection are still keeping us together. We pray that You give us wisdom, strong discernment, and the truths of Your Word in this major decision we are about to take. Remove anything on our path that doesn’t come from You and belongs to You. And we rebuke every work of the enemy at work in our lives in Jesus’ name. Amen.
What To Say To A Husband Who Wants A Divorce?
How can I convince my husband not to divorce me?
It can be challenging to convince or change someone’s mind about what they have already decided in their hearts. Convincing your husband not to divorce you takes an amount of intercession on your part and from those who are praying with you. James 5:16 says, Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
What To Say To A Husband Who Wants A Divorce?
Only you, the Lord, and your husband know what made your husband decide to divorce you. Who is at fault doesn’t matter; after all, marriage is teamwork, and you both are accountable to each other. If you think you are the reason that led to such a decision and you want to convince him not to divorce you, you must make every effort to show you are repentant and that you still care about your marriage. If you have cheated on your husband, humble yourself, and be sincere and honest as you openly share your heart with your husband.
And if it is the other way around, and your husband wants a divorce so he can be with another woman, hold on tight to the Lord. Continuously pray for your husband; if the timing is right, speak with him and listen to him. Ask him for his reasons for cheating and hold your tongue. Allow him to communicate without being defensive. Seek to understand his point of view so that there will be true restoration in your relationship.
You must surrender your marriage to the Lord, and whatever the outcome, don’t forget that the Lord is always there for you, never leaving you nor forsaking you.
Can God still restore my marriage?
There are countless testimonies of restored marriages. Even some who have had a divorce would later be restored years later as the work of the Lord. Just know that everything that is happening in the present is temporary. As long as you are alive and breathing, there is hope in the Lord. God’s faithfulness never ceases. Continue to pray for your marriage and your husband. Don’t quit praying, and don’t lose hope. Even if your husband may end up remarrying another woman, the goal is to restore your friendship, at least with your husband and the father of your children.
God’s sovereignty in our lives doesn’t mean He can control human thoughts, decisions, and emotions. God is a good Heavenly Father who allows His children to be responsible for their choices, to be able to choose whom to love and befriend, and be able to make choices in life that glorifies Him. It takes effort on our part to know His Word and learn His ways and principles so that in every decision we make in our lives, in our thoughts and emotions, we are always led by the Holy Spirit.
God’s sovereignty points us to the truth that no matter what is going on in our lives, He is able to work things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purposes ( And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28).
May God give you the strength, wisdom, and power to accomplish what you must do and overcome what needs to be overcome in your marriage. May the Lord show His mighty hand and touch of love in your husband’s life in Jesus’ name. Amen.