Prayer to Love My Husband Again

Prayer to Love My Husband Again. For marriage to work in the long run, there must be mutual effort, sacrifices, all the gives and takes, and most of all, Christlikeness in the couple’s heart. When the Lord and the Word of God reign in a marriage, the enemies of the covenant are overcome, such as overfamiliarity with each one’s presence, overstepping boundaries and personal spaces, self-centeredness, lack of passion in pursuing each other, and so on. Somehow, you are here because you find your heart no longer beating for the one you once were deeply in love with. You felt like love has already left that important spot at the heart of your marriage. 

As you seek God’s guidance and empowerment to love your husband again through prayer, know that you are moving in the right direction, and He is here right now to empower you and renew your love for each other. Here is a simple prayer to help you love your husband again:

Heavenly Father, I humbly come before Your presence. I surrender my mind and heart, which no longer beats the same for my husband. You alone know all the reasons, even the things I don’t understand, but You do. I desire to love my husband again and restore our love for each other. I know Your perfect will for our marriage is that we are both restored. You are the Maker of this covenant. So, I put my confidence in Your ability to restore our hearts and heal all the wounds in our marriage. Help me see my husband’s new nature in Christ Jesus every day. Thank You, Father, for I can depend on You at all times, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Moreover, you can also pray the Scriptures if you don’t know what to pray for. Praying God’s Word is powerful and effective because you are praying for God’s will and His promises to your marriage. So, if you don’t know what to pray for regarding your husband, marriage, and love for your husband, run to the Scriptures and declare God’s Word. For instance, God promised in Philippians 1:6 that He would finish the good work He started in you until the day Jesus returns. You can receive this promise for your marriage and declare it in this manner:

Thank You, Lord, that my marriage is not yet over. My love for my husband is still burning, for You are my source of True Love. You will finish the good work you have begun in this marriage until the day Jesus Christ returns. I surrender this heart to You, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Every time you remember the brokenness and pain you’ve experienced in your marriage and from your husband, run to God and cling to His presence. Lift your partner and your marriage in prayer. Speak life, declare hope and restoration, and don’t stop praying until you see God’s hand move mightily in your marriage. Keep the faith and be strong in the Lord, who is faithful in dealing with all our messes, troubles, and sorrows. You are not alone, for the Holy Spirit is always here to help you.

How can I love my husband again?    

It can be difficult to bear when love in a marriage runs out, but the fact that you are here seeking ways to love your husband again is proof that love is still there. 

1 Corinthians 13:7 says that love “beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” You have not yet given up on your husband, which means there is still hope.

To love your husband again, you can begin with the renewal of your mind. The Bible says that our thoughts shape our life (see Proverbs 4:23 – Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.). The moment you think of all the good things your husband has done for you, on the days you were so in love with him and seeing him through the Heavenly Father’s eyes, you will change the way you see your husband, and your heart will gradually begin to beat again. It doesn’t happen in a single day. It requires continuous training and practice to renew your mind daily and fill it with God’s Word and testimonies that empower marriages and families until you are fully convinced that you will love your husband for the rest of your life, no matter what may happen.

To love is a choice to keep on loving. It isn’t a feeling that comes and goes and changes according to moods and hormones. Look at God, who remains faithful even when we are unfaithful, because that’s just who He is (see 2 Timothy 2:13 – If we believe not, yet he abideth faithful: he cannot deny himself.). God’s concept of love in marriages is His agape love. We love selflessly and always see the good in people’s eyes. It won’t help when you meditate on the negative things your husband has done to you. The more you dwell on these thoughts, the more the enemy can come into your marriage to steal, kill and destroy your relationship (see John 10:10 – The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.). Unless there is continuous abuse that has caused your heart to stop loving your husband, it is suggested that you both get godly counseling together and get help from someone in authority over your lives, such as your pastor or a trusted friend. You can check out the article How to Pray for an Abusive Husband to learn more about this.

Moreover, to love your husband again, you must first seek the Lord and receive more of His love for you. When you understand how much He loves you, His love in you will overflow towards your husband. Meditating on God’s love is the most powerful thing because it empowers us to love others the way He loves us. The more you seek Him first and His Word, the more His peace will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. 

Also, it is important to gently communicate matters with your husband in Christlikeness. Marriage requires teamwork. You cannot continue loving a husband who isn’t responding to your love or is only thinking about himself in the long run, as this can impact your marriage negatively. God did not design marriage to be a one-way street of love. It must be mutual in every way. If you both struggle in areas of your life, you must seek godly counseling and help from trusted people.

Last but not least, keep praying for your husband and keep speaking life to his soul. Your words can greatly affect the spiritual realm, as they can bring forth life or death, as Proverbs 18:21 says. You may even pray for him and let him hear you speak life. Therefore, speak life to your husband. Build him up in the Lord and pray for him. You can pray in this way:

In Jesus’ name, my husband is a good man. He is the one whom my soul loves and will forever love, so long as we’re alive. He is Christlike in all His ways and loves me the way Jesus loves him. Amen. 

What do I say to God when I’ve lost my love for my husband?

Most couples married for more than twenty years have gone through the same things as you. Losing your love for your husband is common among couples who have already survived and surpassed many battles in life and marriage. We can lose our affection towards our spouses when our hearts get tired from the battles, get numb from situations that happen repeatedly, and when we have uncommunicated issues with our spouses. Yet, as Christians, we are still blessed because despite the trials and challenges we must overcome, we are never alone in facing them. We have our Heavenly Father, the Lord Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit, who listens to us and carries us when we can no longer carry ourselves.

You can always say what’s real in your heart to God, such as losing your affection towards your husband. God won’t condemn you or reject you for being honest. Truthfully, He prefers honesty more than hiding what’s in our hearts. When we are honest with God, He can help us overcome our weaknesses. The Lord said to the Apostle Paul, who requested to remove a thorn in his flesh that His grace is sufficient and works best in people’s weaknesses (see 2 Corinthians 12:9). When you tell God about the state of your heart towards your husband, He will empower you with His love. He will give you His perspective and let His presence overflow in your life so that you are able to do what He has called you to do.

As you seek God’s help to love your husband again, know that He will not fail you. You can trust Him as you patiently obey His promptings, leading, and His Word in your life. 

May God bless you and your husband, and keep your marriage opposed to the work of the enemy, in Jesus’ name.