A Cheating Husband Prayer

Finding out that your spouse is cheating on you is a terrible experience. It causes great pain and suffering, both mentally and emotionally. Finding out about your husband’s affair may be one of the darkest seasons that you encounter in your life. Therefore, we strongly encourage you not to go through that alone, and always seek your church community’s company and help (Galatians 6:2). You will need brothers and sisters in Christ who will encourage you, speak the truth, be there for you, and pray for you. As you go through that season of suffering, emotional and mental healing is one of the things for which you can pray.

Here is a prayer guide for you as you pray for yourself and healing: A Cheating Husband Prayer

Heavenly Father, in this season, I am going through, where I feel that I am walking through the valley of the shadow of death, I thank You because I am not walking through it alone. You are my shepherd whose rod and staff comforts me. Even if I walk in this so-called dark valley, Your mercies still follow me. I thank You because You are with me even in this season of pain. You never leave me nor forsake me. Heal my broken heart, Father, and bind up my wounds. You are the God who restores. I thank You because I can still give thanks to You, even in this season, and rejoice because my joy and completeness are in Christ. Despite what I am going through, I can still live a victorious life, as it is Christ who strengthens. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

How do you treat a cheating husband?

Finding out that your husband is cheating on you will likely cause a surge of different emotions. However, it is not only pain, sadness, or denial that one feels… hate and bitterness may also be present. The desire to exact retaliation is often felt after being hurt, like an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. This response could range from different kinds of actions. It could be physically hurting your husband, ignoring him, being incredibly hostile to him, or even worse, cheating with someone just to get back at him. That does not mean that your emotions of being hurt are not valid. Who wouldn’t be hurt when their spouse cheats on them? However, just because we feel the desire to do something does not mean we should act on it.

Proverbs 9:10

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.

Titus 2:11-12

11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,

12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

In the same way, despite how much you may hate your husband, the response that Christ teaches us to have is to love them still. Indeed, what your husband did to you is wrong. However, judgment is not for us to give through how we treat our husbands. Vengeance is the Lord’s. Therefore, no matter how painful the things are that your husband did, never avenge yourself, as God will be the one to make things right in the end.

Matthew 5:38-48

38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:

39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.

42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.

43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.

44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?

47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?

48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

 

Romans 12:19

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

Loving your husband, despite what he did to you, is very hard indeed. Here is a prayer that you can offer as you ask God for the grace to be able to do it:

Heavenly Father, give me the grace to not avenge myself for what my husband did but help me love him and turn the other cheek. May I not be ruled by my flesh, but rather, may I always act by the Spirit and do the right and pleasing things in Your eyes, Father. Help me to be Christlike towards my husband. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

How do I pray for an unfaithful husband?

Only the Holy Spirit can convict your husband and cause him to repent. If your husband is not a Christian, then his salvation is another thing you can pray for. You can offer this prayer as you pray for your husband:

Holy Spirit, I pray that You will convict my husband with the sin he has committed. Give him the grace to respond with godly sorrow for the sin that he has committed and that he will repent from such acts. Give him the grace to do the right thing and break off his affair with that person. Only you can change the disposition of his heart, Holy Spirit. [Turn his heart of stone into a heart of flesh so that he may repent from his sins and choose to follow Christ and live a life of holiness]. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

What should a wife do when her husband cheats?

Forgive. It may be easy to say, but it is tough to do. However, if you want to please God and grow more in Christlikeness, then forgiving your husband is what you should do. If God forgave us, despite our sins, who are we never to forgive someone? We ought to forgive just as God forgave us. Bitterness is like holding a poison inside us and expecting the other person to be harmed by it. It never does us any good. If indeed we have received forgiveness from God and realized His grace and mercy, we will forgive others. Yes, it is hard, which is why we will need God’s grace to do it.

Mark 11:25

And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

Matthew 6:14-15

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 18:21-22

21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?

22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.

Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

If you find it hard to forgive, here is a simple prayer you can pray:

Father in heaven, give me the grace and the strength to forgive my husband, despite the pain that his actions caused me. Help me release forgiveness towards him and let go of the bitterness that I feel. With my own strength, I can’t do these things, but I can do it through Christ who strengthens me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Just because your husband cheated on you does not mean that you should definitely divorce. Marriage is sacred to God (Mark 10:9), so you should try to save it and keep it intact as much as you can. Seek help and marriage counseling from your pastor if needed. God is a God of restoration. He can restore marriage in ruins and turn it into something beautiful and strong enough to be a testimony for other people.