Your husband has left you. You’re devastated. You feel alone and abandoned. You might even feel ostracized by your brothers and sisters in Christ. However, your Father, the Lord God in Heaven, has not only promised to never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5), but He has promised to be with you always, through all things, even unto the end of the world (Matthew 28:20). In today’s post we will be looking at How to Pray for My Husband Who Left Me.
In a perfect world, and in a perfect church congregation, women whose husbands have left them would be treated with the same respect as widows, and their children would be given the same considerations as orphans. However, unfortunately, because the husband is still alive, that’s usually not how the situation is handled. Instead, the women and children are often left without the ministry they so desperately need from the Church. However, this is not God’s intent. God is a father to the fatherless and a judge of widows, and His desire is to place the solitary in families (Psalm 68:5-6). If your congregation is lacking ministry for women who find themselves alone, be it through separation, divorce, or the death of a husband, it may be that God is using this time in your life to prepare you to fulfill a need (Acts 6:1-3). God may be preparing you to minister the healing you receive to other women who find themselves without a husband and to their children who find themselves without a father (James 1:27).
Regardless of God’s plans for you, be it ministry or personal growth, know that He will use the pain of your current situation to draw you into a closer walk with Him (2 Corinthians 4:17). He has promised you that all things—not just the good, but the bad and ugly things too—work together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). Therefore, though it may be hard to do so at the moment, thank God for this period in your life; He will use this time to bring you closer to Him without the distractions of being a wife and caring for the needs of your husband (1 Corinthians 7:34-35).
Can God fix a broken relationship?
If God is able to make a new Heaven and a new Earth (Revelation 21:1), then He cannot only fix a relationship that’s broken—He can make the relationship new (Revelation 21:5). How can He do that? By fixing you and by fixing your husband, and then reintroducing the two of you to each other.
How to Pray for My Husband Who Left Me
However, it’s important to always remember that it’s not your job to identify your husband’s faults that you believe need to be fixed—that job belongs solely to the Lord. You need to concern yourself only with what the Lord wants to do in your heart, in your mind, and in your life (Matthew 7:3).
If you’re willing to yield to the Lord, He can use this time that you’re separated from your husband to mold and shape you into a new creature (2 Corinthians 5:17). The Lord is the Potter and you are the clay (Isaiah 64:8). However, you must be willing to remain pliable in the hands of the Potter. How do you do that? By immersing yourself in the water of the Word of God, allowing Christ to soften your heart in the Father’s hands, that He might not only cleanse you, but also form you into that vessel of honor that He desires you to be, a vessel without spot or blemish (Ephesians 5:26-27). At the same time, you need to immerse yourself in worship, entering into the abundant living water of the Holy Spirit, which will allow your loving Father to gently turn your loss into beauty, your mourning into joy, and your sadness into praise (Isaiah 61:3).
Trust the Lord enough during this time of separation from your husband to willingly climb up on His Potter’s wheel, submit to His hands on your life, and allow Him to reshape you, to remold you, to smooth out your flaws, and to form you into the cherished vessel that He intends for you to be (Jeremiah 18:3-4). Your Heavenly Father desires for you, the earthen vessel that He chose to store His treasure within, to be a vessel that would bring Him honor (2 Corinthians 4:7). And what treasure has He put within you? Christ in you, the hope of glory (Colossians 1:27). So, let the Potter mold you as He sees fit, for only He knows the details of the plans that He has for you. He has promised that those plans are to prosper you, to give you hope, and to give you a bright future (Jeremiah 29:11).
Will God bring my spouse back?
God is the God of restoration. He ordained marriage to be a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman (Mark 10:6-9). Therefore, it is God’s desire to bring your husband back to you and restore your marriage. However, God also gave each of us free will to make our own choices, whether those are good choices or bad ones (Deuteronomy 30:19). Because of this freedom to choose, in the end, it is up to your husband whether he will come back home to you or not. Don’t let that discourage you, as God is a turner of hearts. He is able through ministry to turn the hearts of fathers back to their children and the hearts of the disobedient back to the wisdom of the just (Luke 1:17).
So, as you wait upon the Lord to change your husband’s heart and restore your marriage, focus on strengthening yourself in your own Christian walk (Isaiah 40:31). Allow the God of restoration to renew you in preparation for the restoration of your marriage. Let the Lord restore your soul (Psalm 23:3). Let the Lord restore to you the joy of your salvation (Psalm 51:12).
How to Pray for My Husband Who Left Me
Let the Lord restore your emotional and physical wellbeing, and heal your feelings of rejection (Jeremiah 30:17). Let the Lord restore all that has been taken from you by the enemy, so that you are strengthened and God is glorified (Joel 2:25-27).
Prayer for My Husband Who Left Me
Father, God in Heaven, I first ask Your forgiveness for any pain that I have caused my husband, for I know that I have sinned and come short of Your glory (Romans 3:23). Have mercy upon me, O Lord, and heal me, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved (Jeremiah 17:14). Mold me and shape me, Lord, so that I might bring You glory through my life and my marriage.
Lord, You have seen my husband’s ways, and You know his heart even better than he knows it himself; therefore, Lord, I ask that You would heal him of whatever pain has caused him to leave me, and that You would begin the restoration process in his life (Isaiah 57:18). Visit my husband, O Lord, speak to him, and restore him to Yourself first and then to our marriage (Jeremiah 27:22). Pour out Your loving kindness upon my husband, Lord, that according to Your mercy he might yield to You, even as I yield to You, for regeneration, renewing, and restoration through the work of Your Holy Spirit (Titus 3:4-5).
As You work in my husband’s life and in my own life, Lord, I ask You to fill me with all joy and peace in believing, so that I will not become discouraged, but that I might abound in hope through the power of the Holy Ghost (Romans 15:13). And Lord, show me how to use this experience, the healing I will receive and the lessons I will learn, to minister to other women who find themselves in a similar situation (1 Peter 4:10).
Finally Lord, watch between my husband and myself while we are apart from one another (Genesis 31:49). By faith, I commit my way unto You, O Lord, and I trust in You to bring these things to pass (Psalm 37:5). In the name of Jesus I pray, amen.