How to Pray for Your Daughter’s Future Husband

Every mother’s wish is to see her daughter happy.  Every mother’s desire is for her daughter to feel loved.  Every mother’s dream is for her daughter to find a good husband to share her life with. Those things are also included in God’s plan for your daughter.  Your job, as her mother, is to raise your daughter to serve the Lord (Proverbs 22:6), to instill in your daughter godly virtues and values (Proverbs 31:10), and to give your daughter an understanding of Christian marriage (Genesis 2:18).  Your other job as a mother is to pray for your daughter’s future husband from the time she is a child (1 Thessalonians 5:17).

A prayer, for the spouse of a daughter is a plea to God seeking His guidance and blessings in helping her find the perfect life partner. It is an expression of hope and affection asking for a husband who will be loving, respectful, and supportive towards her. This prayer seeks intervention, in shaping her destiny and ensuring a fulfilling marriage.

An understanding of marriage

Long before your daughter is ready to find a husband, you, as her mother, need to ensure that she understands marriage from a biblical perspective.

Your daughter needs to understand that man’s government and man’s religion didn’t establish the institution of marriage; marriage predates both religion and government, as it was first established in the Garden of Eden when God created the first woman from a rib that He took from the first man’s side (Genesis 2:21-24).  Therefore, man’s government and man’s religion will never have the authority to change God’s definition of marriage.

Your daughter needs to understand that marriage is not a contract between two people; marriage is a covenant made before, and blessed by, God (Genesis 1:28).  A contract guarantees that one’s own rights will be protected and one’s own expectations will be met, whereas a covenant promises that the other person’s rights will be protected and the other person’s expectations will be met.  A covenant places the other person’s interest above one’s own (Romans 12:10).

Your daughter needs to understand that marriage is intended to last forever; it is not to be entered into lightly or ended when things become difficult (Mark 10:9).  She needs to realize that problems will arise in every marriage, which is the reason Christ must remain at the center of her marriage, with her husband and herself bound together with and through Him. Christ will provide the strength to hold their marriage together during difficult times (Ecclesiastes 4:12).

Finally, your daughter needs to understand that marriage is a beautiful earthly representation of Christ and His Church (Revelation 19:7); the husband represents Christ, the head, and the wife represents His Church, the body (Ephesians 5:23).

How can I find a good man for my daughter?

God, in His infinite love and wisdom, already has a husband chosen for your daughter; the man the Lord has chosen for her is the man who will help her fulfill the wonderful plans that He has for her life (Jeremiah 29:11).  Therefore, as her mother, you need to resist the temptation to orchestrate your daughter’s relationships in an effort to help her find a good husband, and instead place her future in the hands of the Lord.

 

You, as her mother, need to commit your daughter’s future to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will bring to pass His will in her life (Psalm 37:5).  Yes, it takes a lot of faith to entrust your daughter to the Lord; however, remember that faith is the substance of things hoped for, which tangibly forms those hopes into reality, as faith is the evidence, the proof, of things not yet seen (Hebrews 11:1).

 

As you wait upon the Lord to reveal His choice for your daughter’s husband, pray for their future together.  Pray that your daughter will find favor in the sight of her future husband from the moment he lays eyes on her, that he will favor her, desire to provide for her, and protect her (Ruth 2:8-9).  Pray that your daughter will have favor in the sight of her mother-in-law, and that her mother-in-law will love her and bless her (Ruth 1:8).  Pray that your daughter and her future husband will serve the Lord together, sharing their hopes and dreams for the future, supporting each other in times of trials, and praying together always (Romans 12:11-12).

 

When you prayerfully entrust the choosing of your daughter’s future husband to the Lord, you can rest assured that He will provide her with a husband who will be His best choice for her (Matthew 7:9-11)

How do I let go and let God fix my daughter’s marriage?

As much as you wish for your daughter’s marriage to be a “happily ever after” story, you need to remember that marriage is between an imperfect man and an imperfect woman; because of this simple fact, your daughter and her husband will occasionally experience problems in their marriage.

When your daughter and her husband have conflicts in their marriage, you need to remain available, but neutral, listening but not judging, trusting that God will intervene (Psalm 44:21).  This means that if your daughter comes to you to vent her frustrations about her husband and the problems they are having, you must listen to her without taking sides; then, if she is willing, pray with her for the Lord’s direction in handling the marital problems she has confided in you (1 Peter 5:7).

Likewise, if your son-in-law should come to you regarding the problems they are having in their marriage, it is important to also listen to him without taking sides; and again, if he is willing, pray with him for God’s wisdom in solving these problems (Proverbs 8:14).  It is vital that you do not repeat to either what the other has confided in you; rather, keep their words to yourself, ponder them in your heart (Luke 2:19), and use what you have learned as you intercede for their marriage in prayer (1 Timothy 2:1).

Prayer for my daughter’s future husband

Father, I commit to You my daughter and surrender to You the choosing of her husband.  For only You, Lord, in Your infinite wisdom, know the plans that You have for her.  Therefore, Lord, I simply intercede to agree with Your good and perfect plans for my daughter and her future husband. 

First, Lord, I ask that you would surround my daughter’s future husband with Christian mentors who will prepare him to be a Christ-like husband (Proverbs 27:17). 

Then, Lord, I ask You to give my daughter favor with her future husband above all other women who might seek his attention, so that she will be secure in his love (Esther 2:17).     

And, Lord, as my daughter opens her heart to her future husband, let him also show his love for her without dissimulation, sharing his true feelings with her, and allowing himself to be open and emotionally honest with her (Romans 12:9).   

Finally, Lord, as they are united in marriage before You, give my daughter’s future husband an understanding of his role in their marriage, including the role of spiritual leadership in their home (Joshua 24:15); and help my daughter honor her husband as the head of, the provider for, and the protector of their household (Ephesians 5:23).

I commit my daughter and her future husband to You, Lord, in the mighty name of Jesus, the name which is above all names.  Amen.