Prayer for a Husband’s Forgiveness

Dear God,

I come before You today with a sense of humility in my heart. I recognize my frailty and the fact that I have fallen short of the glory of God. Lord, please forgive me and cleanse my sinful ways so that I too can be made worthy to stand before You. Regardless of the actions I have committed in the past, I am assured that You will forgive my true and contrite heart because of the abundant grace that You have bestowed upon me and the boundless, limitless love that You have for me.

Today, I come to present a need to You, Lord. The burden of the need for my husband’s forgiveness is something I carry within me. I ask that he will be quick to forgive me when I cause him agony and pain. Please hear my prayer. I pray that he will not nurse any anger or other unpleasant emotions in his heart, as these tend to be devastating to our marriage. I beseech You, Lord, to intervene and assist my husband in coming back to me so that he may be reminded of the vows that we have made in front of You.

Lord, I pray that You will touch his heart in such a way that he will be able to look past everything that is not good about me or about the relationship and instead focus on the positive aspects of our marriage and look up to me once more with the eyes of love and forgiveness. I ask this because I want him to be able to move on from the negative part of our relationship; remove all of the anger and pain that is hidden within his heart, and in its place, plant the kind of love that emanates from You. Please let him understand the love I have for him and that the moment of my weakness is something I am extremely sorry for. Help him forgive me by transforming his heart and making it easier for him to do so. I pray for healing for both of us as well as for the restoration of our relationship.

We ask that You enfold us in Your love and bless our marriage so that we may persevere and triumph over the difficulty ahead of us. I believe in Your promise that if we seek something from You, we will receive it. I close this prayer in the faith that You have given me, Lord, and I thank You for the peace that comes from You that is above all understanding. Even amid this storm, I will continue to put my whole and steadfast faith in You. This is my prayer in Jesus’ name. Amen.

What do I do if my husband won’t forgive me?

The process of forgiving someone involves a combination of decision making and personal growth. It cannot be forced upon others simply because it seems like the thing to do. Instead it is an individuals choice to extend forgiveness. Although forgiveness is an act there are situations where it can be challenging to achieve particularly when trust has been broken and betrayal has caused pain. As followers of the faith we are encouraged to forgive others just as we have been forgiven by the Lord for our wrongdoings. However what should one do if their spouse refuses to forgive them after seeking forgiveness?

It can be quite difficult when our attempts, at reconciliation are not reciprocated and it becomes more painful when we ourselves are not granted forgiveness for mistakes. Nonetheless life must go on. On our journey, towards healing and forgiveness there are steps we can consider taking;

1. Forgive Yourself Even If Your Husband Does Not Want to Forgive You

Our God is a God of mercy and forgiveness toward those who come to Him. When we do something wrong, it does not mean that we should be punished for the rest of our lives because of that wrongdoing since, in the first place, our mistakes do not define who we are. The Lord never failed to bring to our attention the importance of forgiving others and ourselves for the wrongs we have committed. We, too, need to become more self-forgiving and considerate of our shortcomings. All we need to do is confess our trespasses, and the Lord will forgive us our sins ( If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9).

2. We Should Give It Some Time and Wait for Its Season

Everything will eventually fall into place, given enough time. There is always a perfect time for everything that has happened, is currently happening, and will soon happen. Right now, there may be a period of sorrow and pain, but soon enough there will come a time of granting forgiveness and celebrating new beginnings. Because the Lord has predetermined the seasons in which we find ourselves, we ought to have faith that everything will fall into place at the appropriate time ( To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: Ecclesiastes 3:1). Don’t worry about it, and instead, practice letting the uncontrollable go and allow God to take control.

3. You Are Not Accountable for the Unforgiveness, Your Husband Is

The Lord instructed us to treat one another with kindness and to forgive those we had conflicts with, just as He had forgiven us when we had transgressed against Him ( Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. Colossians 3:13). When we have asked for forgiveness, and it has been denied to us, the responsibility for our actions no longer lies with us. Rather, it lies with those who refuse to forgive us.

4. You Are Not Identified by Your Past Mistakes

You should not let your past mistakes continue to hold you captive because they already belong to the past. The sins that you have committed do not have the power to define who you are concerning the Lord. Rather, they need to serve as a lesson and a step that will bring you closer to God. The sins of the world have been forgiven because, through Christ, the Lord has already made a reconciliation between the world and Himself. If we are in Christ, then we are a new creation in Him (Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17).

5. Learn from Your Past Mistakes and Be a Better Version of Yourself

A mistake can be regarded as either a setback or a valuable lesson that can help us develop our faith; we have the option to look at our mistakes in either of these ways. Although it cannot bring back a pleasant memory, you can use your mistakes as motivation to improve yourself and become a more honorable person. It is time for us to put the things in the past behind us and focus our attention on the things in the future (Philippians 3:13-14).

How can I make my husband forgive me?

When you find out that the person you offended has already forgiven you for the things you’ve done in the past, it’s like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders. The same feeling of freedom can be a catapult for a variety of emotions, one of which is the optimism that everyone can begin again from scratch. On the other hand, this does not always result in a positive ending because there are instances when forgiveness is not given even when we make every effort to put right the wrong and restore everything to its previous ideal state. What should we do when we find ourselves in such a dilemma? When we are put in a tough situation, what are some ways that we can earn the forgiveness of our husband?

These are the series of steps that we should take to win back our husband’s trust and confidence and, ultimately, his forgiveness.

1. Genuinely Ask for His Forgiveness

When we make a sincere request for forgiveness, the person on the receiving end will nearly always be able to tell whether the request was made in good faith. If you want someone’s forgiveness, you should ask for it with all of your heart, not simply because it’s expected of you or because you think it’s the right thing to do, even if you don’t truly mean it. If it is not genuine at all, it will just cause them unnecessary pain. We have been taught that if we forgive those who have wronged us, the Heavenly father will also be forgiving toward us (Matthew 6:14-15).

2. Ask Help from God Through Prayer

The first step in resolving our conflicts with one another is to apologize and beg for forgiveness. When we are put in a position like this, our first thought is to turn to God, Who is our greatest source of hope and the One Who provides help for us (Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; Romans 12:12). We must pray and ask for God’s divine intervention to touch our husband’s heart for him to be able to forgive. In the same vein, we ask for strength, perseverance, and patience in our prayers. Since the Lord is a God Who hears and responds to prayers, all we have to do is make our requests known to Him. All we need to do is ask.

3.  Take Full Responsibility for Your Mistakes

We ought to take full responsibility for our mistakes; there can be no ifs, buts, or qualifications. If, after confessing our sins, we try to rationalize or justify our actions by pointing out why we did them in the past, we cannot credibly claim that our repentance is sincere. The Lord is faithful and righteous to forgive our sins if we confess (If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9). Even if we have moved on from those failures and they are now in the past, we must make it clear to our spouse that we accept full responsibility for the actions that have been committed.  

4. Have a Changed Heart and Behavior

Changing one’s behavior in some way is the surest sign that one has truly repented. This is compelling proof that your request for forgiveness comes from a place of complete sincerity. For if we are already in Christ, we are a new creation (Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17). If you are concerned that you have done something so heinous that it has tainted the relationship and caused sorrow and pain, there should be no way you’ll want to return to it. We must fill our hearts with all the good things conceivable so that the actions that emanate from them are also good. In this way, the husband and wife’s relationship won’t have to go through the same misery once more.

5. Win Your Husband Back Just Like It Was at the Beginning of the Marriage

Your love for your husband should be passionate. Demonstrate to him the same vigor and tenderness that you showed in the early stages of your marriage. Assure him, and then use your love for him to dispel any doubts, worries, or concerns he may have. For love covers a multitude of sins (And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8). Prove to him once more that the promises you made to him in your marriage vows are being kept by your love. Have faith that he will recognize all your efforts and recognize that your repentance for your mistake is sincere.

Unforgiveness is analogous to poison in that it steadily erodes a connection and, in the end, brings an end to the marriage. It is important to remind ourselves that because we are human, there will be moments when we are tempted to behave poorly, but the problem does not end there. When we sincerely ask for forgiveness and have a changed heart, we are able to mend a damaged relationship and begin anew.